Drum rolls for this mane that turns one year today!! Exactly one year ago I came home from school, went straight to the bedroom, picked a pair of scissors and asked my mom to cut all my relaxed hair.I bet she thought I was loosing it but she still went ahead and cut it. I was left with about an inch of hair. The shock of having short hair is a feeling I still cant put into words. The last time I had short hair was about ten years ago. I did not really like how I looked but psyched myself telling myself that I am not my hair. Mark you I had a shoot the next day. That still has to be the most difficult shoot I’ve had. I was there trying to feign confidence and the shock on my photographer’s face when she saw my new look was not helping.So my one year natural hair journey has been a roller coaster of sorts but well worth it. So I decided to put down some of my two cents about my journey so far ( its gonna be a long one get you some cup of tea).
1. Our journeys are totally different.
First of my hair is totally different from my sisters’ even my mom’s. What works for me most of the time does not work for them. Similarly, what works for your favorite natural hair blogger might not work for you. I learnt this after a lot of trial and error with products I saw working for other bloggers.
2. You do not have to be a product junky.
I am just an intern right now and splurging on hair products is not something I am ready to indulge in. Luckily for me, by the fourth month being natural I had already established what actually worked products worked for me and stuck with them. I do try my hands on new products once in a while but I know my basics. I’m told what works now might not work two years to come but we will see.
3.As your hair grows, detangling becomes a pain in the neck(ok it has been for me).
This is one thing I hate about natural hair. I sincerely dread detangling especially since my hair seems to be getting thicker by the day. If any of y’all know how I can make my detangling sessions better please hit the comment box.
4. Discipline is key.
Heck yea!!Even those self proclaimed lazy naturals follow a routine and regimen. On those days you are feeling lazy af and your eyes feel hella heavy, guess what? You have to make sure le hair is in a bun and well wrapped in a satin bonne/scarf. My family complains that I spend a lot of time on my hair!!(Well I don’t think so) Wash days have to be just that, WASH DAYS! The mane has to be washed without fail. Being natural has taught me how to be disciplined and consistent in everything I do if ever I expect to see results.
5.Not everyone will like your hair. Deal with it.
I have come to understand that being natural is a decision I made for myself and not for anyone else. Be proud of it and don’t feel intimidated or cowed anytime someone comments negatively on your hair. You like it that way and that’s all that matters.
6. Do not think you will reach waist length overnight.
I am a length chaser so hard. Even so I do not obsess over it. So long as the diet is right, and you are drinking enough water, the hair will grow. I have tried as much as possible to minimize breakage and eventually I have retained length and I bet my hair is healthy. I am at give or take seven inches now. See God!! Then again our hairs do not grow at the same rate so please stick to your lane and stop comparing your journey with anyone else.
7. It takes time to master some hairstyles stop stressing!!
I only learnt how to hack two strand twists about two months ago though bantu knots were just a breeze from day one. Funny enough the last two times I tried out bantu knots , unraveling was just a mess. I ended up with one too many tangles I was almost in tears. I’m yet to find out what went wrong.
8. Sometimes the mane will not behave and that’s okay.
I remember getting so frustrated one night when trying out some hairstyle for the coming week and shit just backfired on me. I swear I’d have cut my hair that day ..thank God I did not though. Our God given puff will always come through in such difficult times lol!!
9.Connecting with fellow naturals will help you a great deal.
Lets face it,you will never know everything. For me joining natural hair groups such as Tricia’s Naturals on Facebook, having natural hair buddies and attending natural hair events has really helped. I have learnt a great deal from other naturals and having people who can relate to some of these experiences around me is a plus.
I spend so much time on the mirror I have no option but to accept myself with all these flaws.I am not saying I do not have days when I just feel like shit but my hair is definitely a confidence booster.
The big question still remains is it worth it? Me thinks….HELL FREAKING YAAAAS!!!
PS :I am no expert in this I am sharing stuff I’ve learnt through my own experience. I hope this helps and encourages a newbie out there.
Are you natural or thinking of becoming one, feel free to share your thoughts on the comment box.
Love and love,